The Synergy of the Heart and Finding Yourself
I read something today that I wanted to share with you. It was posted on my Facebook but I wanted to send it out to all. This came from the blog of
You Are ‘The One’ You Have Been Looking For
Michael Eisen | February 13, 2013 |
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http://www.positivelypositive.com/2013/02/13/you-are-the-one-you-have-been-looking-for/
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For the past couple of months, I was blessed with the experience of
being in the most amazing, intimate, and heart expanding relationship I
have ever been in. Every moment we spent together was more fulfilling in
so many ways than I had ever experienced with anyone else in my life.
We were so compatible in most of the areas of our lives, and even our
differences complimented each other so gracefully. I couldn’t help but
think…maybe she was “the one.”
Unfortunately, my visions and
desires for what could have been between us came to an abrupt conclusion
as the New Year rolled around. I found out that, although she loved me
deeply, cherished our relationship, and was blown away by how I had
matched almost everything on her “list,” she didn’t think I was “the
one” for her.
This was very hard and painful for me to hear.
But
alas, every experience, whether it induces pain or pleasure, is an
opportunity for me to learn and grow from, and I always make that my
mantra in all areas of my life. So as I stepped out of the love
bubble that I was so intensely committed to, I began to peel back the
layers and examine what I was supposed to learn from this.
There
are many people on this planet that believe, or at least want to
believe, the idea that there is one perfect match out there for each of
us. This idea is romanticized extensively in our society and in some
ways brainwashes many of us into believing that one day we will find
“the one” for us and will recognize them clearly when they arrive.
The
more I reflected upon my latest relationship, the more I realized that
somewhere deep in my heart, I wanted to believe this was true myself. It
really is a nice idea if you think about it! I am a born romantic, and
in this most recent relationship, I really for the first time embraced
that. So it was easy for me to get caught up in this way of thinking and
dreaming that she was my “one.”
But now that the relationship is
over, I feel this void in my life. I invested so much energy, time, and
love into this relationship thinking that it could be the life
partnership I was longing for, but now that I am back on my own, I truly
realize that I had been looking for my partner in the wrong place.
A good friend of mine once told me that I am “the one” for me and that anyone else will just be the icing on the cake.
Nobody out there was going to truly fulfill what I was looking and longing for.
Now,
I will say that I have believed this to be true for many years, and,
quite honestly, I don’t think I would have been able to attract such an
amazing and truly compatible girl into my life in the first place if I
had not done so much extensive work on myself first. I spent the good
part of the last eight years learning to love myself more, getting
clearer on who I was, and uncovering what I truly wanted. Yet, I didn’t
realize that, on some level, I was still looking for “the one” to come
in and complete the puzzle. Not to mention, I was unconsciously valuing
the love and appreciation that I was feeling from my girlfriend more
than the love and appreciation that I had for myself.
So here I
am, back on my own and back to the drawing board. I realize that no
matter how much I practiced self-love before, there are still parts of
me and parts of my life that I can love even more. While I was in this
relationship, I showed up in ways that I didn’t even know were possible.
I gave so much love and support unconditionally without the expectation
of getting anything back. And as a result, I gave a lot more than I
received.
But now that I am out of the relationship, I realize
that I truly do desire, and in some sense need, someone to show up for
me the way I show up for them. But, in order for that to happen next
time around, I NOW need to show up for myself and see myself in the same
way!
So I have chosen to take all that time, energy, and
love that I invested into my relationship the past couple of months and
put it back into myself.
In order for true partnership
to show up in any of our lives, we need to stop looking for “the one”
out there and stop hoping that someday our other half will show up and
fulfill what we are longing for. In all truth, YOU are the one for you,
and YOU are the one you have been looking for.
I am now putting
all my effort into embracing that the most important relationship I have
in this life is with MYSELF. I’m not saying I have it all figured out
and that this won’t happen again in my next relationship (hopefully it
won’t). All I can do is learn the lessons, diligently apply them to my
life moving forward, and have trust that I truly am ALL that I need.
After all, I am the only one I have to spend the rest of my life with!
Take Action Challenge:
For
the next seven days, as often as you can each day, look at yourself in
the mirror, put your hands over your heart, take a big breath in and
say, “I AM THE ONE I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR.”
Michael Eisen
is an inspirational speaker, author, and the founder of the Youth
Wellness Network, an organization dedicated to inspiring and empowering
youth across the globe to live happier and more positive lives. After
positively transforming his own life at the age of nineteen, he is now
on a lifelong crusade to share with other young people the principles,
strategies, and practices that gave him the strength to start living a
more joyful and healthier life. Michael’s first book (Empowered YOUth: A Father and Son’s Journey to Conscious Living) is now available everywhere books are sold. To learn more about Michael and the Youth Wellness Network, visit www.youthwellnessnetwork.ca, join him on Facebook and follow him on Twitter..
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I hope that you enjoyed this early Valentine's Day gift from me to you. I feel the synergy all ready.
This is part of Sher's Energy to the World.
Namaste and joy,
Sher
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